Dear Aunty Aurora,
I’m obsessed with the idea of sex with my cousin, though I know it won’t happen.
I’m 28 and she’s 23. We haven’t been able to meet for a while. That always reminds me how gorgeous she is. She’s strong and beautiful and I’ve always admired her a lot.
It’s not like I’m lonely. My girlfriend is great, we live together and I love her loads. I don’t understand why I’m feeling this way but it makes me ashamed. Is it normal for someone to fantasise about having sex with their cousin? Thanks, Kunle. Ebute Metta, Lagos.
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Fantasies about someone unavailable are not uncommon but will damage your relationship.
It’s likely you’re escaping into fantasy rather than dealing with tricky issues in your relationship.
When you have a thought about your cousin, try to track back to the thought before. What were you trying to avoid thinking about, or what did fantasising about her seem to solve? Work that out and you can look for real-life answers in the present.Photo Credit: Getty