There are about a million articles out there that talks about how men manipulate and control women in a relationship but just not enough is out there about how women manipulate men into their wishes.
Women manipulate and are far better at it then men could ever be at it. Learn the subtle acts of women manipulating, conniving tricks used to hold a leash on their man.
Manipulation in relationships is usually subtle; self-serving acts shrouded in seeming good intentions and what feels like simple displays of affection.
It is easy to get carried away and miss the signs of being manipulated by a lady and mistaking for she’s only doing it because she loves me. But the steps below would help you as Sharp Naija Guy to read in-between the lines and know when a lady is trying to manipulate you in a romantic relationship:
1. She Uses Your Soft-spots Against You Or Previous Mistakes:
One way for manipulators to get control over the one they are exploiting is through targeting their victim’s weakness. If your lady uses your insecurities, your soft-spots for her, fears, worries and concerns against you or the worse of all your previous mistakes to hold you to ransom when she’s trying to get something from you better know it is a kind of manipulation.
2. Silent Treatment: The silent treatment in itself isn’t necessarily a bad thing. A lot of times, being silent and thinking about the issue can help you gain perspective and reach a better, more informed decision on the issue.
On the flipside, and particularly in the context of romantic relationships, this silent treatment can be wielded as a weapon to punish a partner and beat their will to submission especially when there is a conflict of opinions on a certain matter.
If your partner sticks to the silent treatment going until you apologize, even if you weren’t wrong, then you have a master manipulator at your hand, and you need to address this issue as soon as possible.
3. Withholding Sex:
Now, this is perhaps the commonest or the one most used trick by ladies of all the manipulative tricks in this article. You must already know how this tactic operates between partners: one partner wants something that the other may not be willing to do ever or at that point in time. So in revolt, they withhold sex so the other partner can be manipulated into doing their bidding.
Sometimes, it is to punish a partner for doing something they didn’t like.
4. Guilt Trip You A Lot:
A partner who can make you feel guilty for your actions, even when you’ve done nothing wrong), is nothing but manipulative.
5. The “If You Love Me You Would Do This”:
If you’re in a relationship with a lady and at every turn, she goes I want this, and you can’t give her that thing at the moment and she then goes if you love me or care about you would do this thing for me. Or she’s just a master manipulator that gets you to do things you just don’t want to do
Staking the whole relationship, or attaching your action to the possible end of the relationship is a toxic, unhealthy and unfair trick. Especially when you are really holding back from doing that said thing for valid reasons.
Just to give you a heads up such relationships or marriages don’t last because it’s built on a facade, almost transactional just a dangerous toxic relationship please get out before she tells you to choose between your mother and her, and if you know you love her, you had better think well about your choice. Photo Credit: Getty