A serial mistress who gets lavished with Tiffany jewellery and Agent Provocateur undies at Christmas insists her affairs help to save marriages.
Gweneth Lee, 47, who’s from California but lives in London, has been exclusively dating married men since 2008, when she joined Illicit Encounters dating site. Since then, she’s dated over 100 men including millionaire businessmen, and says being a mistress at Christmas is the absolute dream.
Gweneth said: “It’s great. The gifts are in abundance, Agent Provocateur, Champagne, jewellery. I’ve been given diamonds, a tennis bracelet from Tiffany, a ring from Boucheron, a Tiffany necklace. One Christmas, I was in California with my family and a gentleman sent me a fur coat via Fed-Ex. I got a pearl necklace from another lovely gentleman, who was in politics. He loved buying me jewellery. I’ve had gentlemen buy me art and Jo Malone candles, I have them all over my home in London.
“I have an Amazon Wish List and when I was running a marathon recently I had one man send me a Fitbit, another a pair of trainers and a third running gear. I don’t ask for any of this, they just do it because they love me and what I’m doing. When men are buying gifts for their spouses at Christmas, they might see something they think would look lovely on me. I’m a different type of woman. I’m an international businesswoman, many of them have wives who are stay-at-home mums.”
Gweneth, who’s currently got three lovers, sees a spike in people looking to cheat around Christmas, with the long break before New Year’s driving blokes to dating sites.
She said: “It’s cold, people want to cuddle. Autumn and winter are depressing times of year for someone who’s not intimate. Between Christmas and New Year you have that window when people are off work or working from their phone, a lot of them start hitting the dating sites. They have some down time and think ‘I’m going to check out that website’ and they see there’s nice women on there. Over the holidays is I get a lot of hits from men, because they’re lonely, even though they’re with their family or kids.”
And Gweneth says there’s no guilt involved with festive cheating, comparing it to a visit to the personal trainer. She said: “There’s a difference between philanderers and men who are seeking to fill a void in their life. We’re talking about a man who’s been in a rock solid marriage for 25 to 30 years. The fact he’s thinking about his mistress over New Year’s is no different to going to the gym because you ate too much. I’m the person who’s filling a void in their life. They don’t really think anything of it, because men are compartmentalisers. Women are emotional and irrational, we have great sex, we fall in love, we become like Velcro. Men don’t have that. They stick everything in a box and the mistress is in that box.”
Gwneth became a mistress after her oil executive husband Robert died from cancer over a decade ago. The serial entrepreneur runs four different businesses, and has absolutely no interest in a monogamous relationship. She said: “I don’t want a single man. All the men that have left their wives or partners for me, I’ve ended things with immediately because that’s not why I’m here. I’m strictly interested in an affair, I’m not looking for anything more than that. I’m not going to wash their socks or cook their dinner. For more it’s symbiotic. I’m an international businesswoman. With the single guys, if you’re not at their beck and call when they snap their fingers, you’re an inconvenient woman.
“With a businessman who’s married, it’s quite simple. If I worked in a boutique on Bond Street I’d have much better success with single men. The more money you make, it limits the pool of men you can date. It’s a disaster if you’re a successful woman, it really is. I’m threatening, I’m inconvenient. If a man is living in the suburbs and working in London, I’m an exciting woman to go for cocktails with and take to an event. But when it comes to the day-to-day, it’s different.”
It may seem counter-intuitive, but Gweneth insists her affairs help to save marriages. She told me: “The men I’m seeing tend to be in their 50s or 60s. If their wives have gone off sex, they’re thinking ‘why doesn’t she desire me?’ It gives you a new lease of life. The first man I dated on Illicit Encounters was an accountant, we had a two-year affair. He would come and stay at my flat in Chelsea and have dinner parties with my girlfriends.
“One of them even took him down and had sex with him in my bedroom, he said he felt like a 20-year-old man in college. He said ‘you make me feel alive, I’m a better husband now’. One day he came home and his wife showed him all four corners of the bedroom, she hadn’t done that in 15 years. He said ‘I’m not going to cheat anymore’. He didn’t consider it cheating when she wasn’t touching him.”
Gweneth normally spends Christmas with her family in America, but says her dates sometimes pop in if she’s celebrating in London.
She said: “I’ve had coffee with them on Christmas Day, at my flat in Chelsea. I see a lot of them on Valentine’s Day. That’s an easy one, they say they have a business meeting. Almost 90 to 95 per cent of the men I’ve had relationships with, their wives have gone off sex. So the wives are grateful they don’t have the guy home on Valentine’s Day, because she knows she won’t have to perform.”
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