Aunty Aurora: My Girlfriend Just Dumped Me After Finding Out I Had Sex With Her Friend…I Want Her Back As I’m Lost Without Her

Dear Aunty Aurora: I had sex with another girl when my girlfriend traveled for a family burial. It was the biggest mistake of my life and I only wish I could turn back the clock. I am 29 and my girlfriend is 26. We have been together for almost three years.She went to Calabar with her family to bury an uncle. I met a few of my mates to waichfootball and hangout in town the same weekend and bumped into a woman who is a friend of my girlfriend’s. She’s 27. She was very flirty, chatty and I ended up talking and drinking with her for the rest of the evening. I dropped her home and she invited me in for a drink. I knew I should have refused straight away but I didn’t really see any harm in it.She leaned over to kiss me as soon as we got through the door. One thing led to another and we ended up having sex. I went home in the morning after a couple more round of sex, already regretting what I had done. I chatted with the friend a couple more times but we decided not to see each other again. However, my girlfriend found out that I had cheated on her a few days later. She called the girl and the girl I slept with told her everything because she felt bad and showed her proof that I’d been unfaithful.I couldn’t deny it. My girlfriend was very upset and I’ve been fighting to get back with her but she does not want to try again. I’ve been begging, grovelling and doing everything I can to show her I love her and that I’m a changed man, which I am. I just want the chance to show her. I am worried that she is going to find someone else. I don’t want her to find someone else. I’m lost without her and she is the love of my life. I need her. Thanks Olu, Ikoyi


Dear Olu:Did you think she’d just shrug and forgive you? She’s hurt and angry after being betrayed by both of you. You shattered her trust. There was no excuse for what you did but there aren’t many people who have never done anything on the spur of the moment which they’ve regretted afterwards, especially when they have had one drink too many.You could try writing her a letter asking for her forgiveness. If this truly was just a one-off mistake, tell her you lost the plot but you want to get your relationship back on track. I hope she will listen but if she still refuses and is adamant it is over, then you are going to have to accept what she’s saying. It takes two to make a relationship, you can’t do it by yourself. Learn from what’s happened and move on.Photo Credit: Getty

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