Aunty Aurora: Does A Woman Ever Deserve The Heartbreak That Comes to Her?

Dear Aunty Aurora,
Please help a sister. I started dating this guy I met through a mutual friend. From our first date, I knew this guy was no good for me. He has two baby mamas which I didn’t have a problem with because I didn’t think we would ever be in a relationship. So we just became friends. His house was within walking distance from mine, so he would come over to my place and chill. As time went by, we grew very fond of each other. We couldn’t do without seeing each other every day and we would be on the phone for hours. Eventually, we became official and we started dating. I never thought I would date someone I had more money than but due to the fact that we got along well, I overlooked the fact that he was broke.

From time to time he would borrow money from me and other times I would even send him money without him asking. His mum also had health issues and was in a coma and I would help raise funds for her treatment.This continued up until February this year when he started making money. But then I noticed that he stopped calling and he started avoiding me.I didn’t even know he had started making money big time till I saw some post on his Instagram page about a new property he just got. I was still happy for him though he didn’t pick my calls or call back. Last month I started facing some financial challenges and decided to pay him a visit. That was the worst mistake of my life because immediately I told him to please lend me some money to boost my business he stood up and asked me to get out of his house. I didn’t even realise what he was saying till he started dragging me outside saying I was feeling entitled because of the little help I offered him in the past. I am so heartbroken and sad and I don’t know how to move on from this. Please help.
Mariam, Kano.
Dear Mariam,
I am so sorry you went through that. Telling you I know how that feels would be a big lie but I really do empathise with you and hope you get over this experience very soon. Its sad that love makes us feel the most happiness possible for humans to feel and it is also often the cause of our deepest pains, but life always goes on. You might feel like you will never get over what that man did to you but believe me when I say you will.
Right now, it is obvious that he is an ingrate and surely not worth your time or tears. There is no point trying to get back together with him since he believes he has arrived and doesn’t need you anymore. Karma has a way of catching up with people like him but most importantly, put whatever you had with him behind you and continue with your life. The best kind of love is always the one that isn’t forced, so wait for it and when the right person comes along, all this would seem like a dream. Have a good life dear. Aunty Aurora.

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