Dear Aunty Aurora,
Recently, I found a list of girls that my partner has been with. I wasn’t meant to see it but I saw a piece of paper with my name on it and I was curious. I was number 65.
I accept he has been with other women before he met me, but I can’t get it out of my head. It’s all I’ve been thinking about. I can’t look at him in the same way. I’m the last person on the list, which is a relief, but I worry about how I compare with the other women.
I’m 32 and my partner is 36. It’s driving me crazy. I’m angry he brought it with him when we moved in together. Thanks Yetunde, Ikoyi, Lagos
You will have to say something or it will eat you up. Say you stumbled across it and wish he hadn’t left it lying around.
But accept he has a past, it is part of the person he is and the person you love. When you start to feel undermined, remind your-self that you are the one he wants to be with now.
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