Aunty Aurora: Must We Wait Till After Our Date To Get Intimate?

Dear Aunty Aurora,
Please this is a matter of life and death, I’m exaggerating though, but this is really important. I will be seeing a guy I met online for the first time come next weekend and I am at a loss. We have been talking and doing video calls for the past 1 month and it feels like I have known him since forever. I really want our first meeting to be special and memorable since he will be travelling back soon. Is it okay to get intimate with him even though its going to be like our first official date? I just want everything to be magical. Please advise. Damilola, Lagos.

Dear Damilola,
There is only so much you can learn about someone over the internet, so I will assume this is officially the first time you are getting to know him. Sex on the first date depends on whether or not you’re going to regret it but ask most people who have been there, the morning after is usually memorable for a different reason. It’s refreshing to meet someone who doesn’t want to give it up all at once and trust me most guys appreciate women who hold out on them at least for a while.

It doesn’t mean you are being easy but most men are more attracted to women who understand how rare it is to have something to look forward to. Men are naturally excited by the chase that builds up the expectation. So I think you should calm down and get to know him a bit more. There are other ways you can make your first day very memorable and I am sure you wouldn’t want to go down in history as one of the conquests. Just take your time and enjoy things as they come. When the time is right you won’t question it.
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