Dear Aunty Aurora,
This might sound like a waste of your time but I believe you will not judge me or be partial in your answers. The problem is that my wife-to-be can’t cook at all. And when I say at all, I mean it. She doesn’t even know when water is boiling. You might think I am making this up but I am not. Let me give a brief background into our story. We were introduced at a family function. I liked her almost immediately because she appeared to be different from the wild party girls I was used to.I asked her out weeks later and she informed me that she was planning to leave the country for her Masters programme and I said no problem, that would take barely two years to complete and I didn’t mind waiting. In between her studies, she came home to visit and due to the fact that I wasn’t living on my own yet, there wasn’t any need for her to cook or do anything of the sort. Now she is through with her studies and I am finally living on my own. It had never even crossed my mind that this could be an issue for us till she came last weekend to stay over. I already asked one of my siblings to get soup ingredients for me so my girl won’t be stressed. Then when my fiancee came I told her that it was about time we had a homemade meal together in my new apartment and that she should take the lead, then I left the kitchen.Few minutes later, she came to call me and I followed her back to the kitchen. She asked me to check if the water was boiling and I did, feeling like the most helpful fiance in the world. I told her the water wasn’t boiled and left. To cut the long story, I waited for a whole 90 minutes because I was watching a match, expecting to even perceive the smell of food cooking or to be called to come and assist or even to hear that food was ready, but nothing happened. I went to the kitchen after the match only to see the same water still on the gas already drying up. I asked her what the problem was, and she said she just wanted the water to boil properly and that was when I knew I was in soup. I turned off the gas, took her hand and went back to the sitting room and asked her to tell me the truth. She then said she didn’t know how to cook because she didn’t learn how to. Her mum had passed while she was a toddler and her step mum never liked her even till date. I have been so depressed since the incidence, I like food and can’t imagine how my life would be without a woman who can cook. Please what do I do?
A woman’s inability to cook isn’t the end of the world irrespective of what some of what our beliefs in this part of the world dictates. There are other qualities that makes a person a good wife asides being able to satisfy your belly.Since your letter was quite long, I will keep my response short and straight to the one. Here are the alternatives I can offer you. Firstly, its not too late to learn, if she is willing. You can either teacher her yourself if you cook, or get someone to teach her or you send her to a catering school. Secondly you could do the cooking yourself, if you don’t mind. If you were expecting me to say you should break up then you will be sorely disappointed. There are several other things that your partner can do yo warrant that, but in this matter, please give her a chance to redeem herself. Aunty Aurora.
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