Ladies, Get in here fast. Today we are talking rough sex and trust me hair pulling and spanking are just the start.
The Art of Scratching. Blows and Sighs. Biting. These may sound like chapter titles in a BDSM manual. But they’re actually from the world’s oldest and most revered guide to sex -the Kama Sutra, an ancient Indian Hindu text written around 400 B.C.
Yeah, apparently people have been having rough sex since the dawn of time. And there are legit physiological and psychological explanations for our love of whips and spanking.
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The f is that, If you’re bitten, scratched, or spanked, your blood pressure goes up and your heart races in response to that pain. If that happens during sex, you interpret it as sexual excitement or as my people will say, ‘Oga is doing the plumbing properly’.
What to Know Before Trying Rough Sex
Spontaneity and surprise are fun in romance – but not in rough sex. You need to discuss things in advance to ensure you and your partner feel safe.
Foreplay – when you’re both relaxed and aroused – is a good time to talk about what rough stuff you might enjoy. Be open-minded and understand that Rough is just one of many ways to have sex.
4 Ways to Try Rough Sex
If you and your partner are both interested in trying rougher sex after discussing it, here are some places to start.
Spanking: Tell Oga to spank with an open palm on the fleshier, lower part of your ass closest to your vagina. When he hit you in this spot, it sends vibrations through your clitoris and your whole body lights a sexual fire.
The ancient Tantra texts say that spanking awakens your kundalini, which is your sexual chi or energy. Let Oga start with a medium spank and work up to a harder spank as you fully get into it. Don’t be afraid to ask if he want you to to spank him, too. You might be surprised how much he likes it.
Hair Pulling: Some women like having their hair pulled during sex. It’s a move that works well when in reverse cowgirl or on all fours. It creates a surge of adrenaline and endorphins. Just teach him how not to grab your hair near the scalp or by the ends. That’s often too painful to be pleasurable.
Biting: Biting definitely brings out more of our primal, animalistic side. Start with the lower lip and move down from there, biting each new body part gently at first and working up to a stronger bite (with permission!).
Taking Control: Being picked up, thrown over a man’s shoulder, and tossed on a bed can bring out the primal side in a woman. For women with powerful jobs, a type-A personality, or even moms who are always in control of everything, it’s nice not to be in charge during sex. Sex is about losing inhibitions and surrendering, and sometimes it’s easiest to surrender when somebody is totally pushing you around.Photo Credit: Getty