Nigerian author and feminist Chimamanda Adichie has called for changes in the Western wedding traditions, stating that the mother of the bride are usually sidelined which according to her, ought not to be so.
Chimamanda Adichie said this in an Instagram post, sharing pictures of both her parents walking her down the aisle and using her case as an instance. According to her, she had decided that both her parents would walk her down the aisle and she would have her first dance with her mother during her small, lovely and private wedding.
“I have always felt that western wedding traditions sideline the mother of the bride — the father walks the bride down the aisle, the father has the first dance with the bride, often the father gives a speech while the mother doesn’t. Our wedding, many years ago, was small and lovely, just as we wanted it. I asked family and friends not to post any photos publicly. I wanted privacy”, Chimamanda Adichie, who has lost both parents wrote on IG.
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“But my need for privacy is now superceded by my desire to publicly honour the rare and wonderful woman I called my mother. And I hope this perhaps inspires any young women (and men) out there who are questioning any kind of convention. Before the wedding, I decided that both my parents would walk me down the aisle. And I decided that my first dance would be with my mother”.
“My father, who I often teasingly called DOS for “Defender of Spouse,” was very supportive. He wasn’t much of a dancer – I inherited his unrhythmic genes – but my mother was. And my mother’s joy on that day was a gorgeous glowing thing. Convention is something made up by somebody and then repeated by others. If convention feels wrong for you, if your skin bristles and your spirit stalls at the thought of doing something “the way it is done,” then stop and act.”
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