Media personality Toke Makinwa in her recent Vlog opened up on closure and shared her thoughts on the conversation. The OAP in her vlog said that she is not a believer in closure as it is a medium to promote toxic behaviour.
Toke Makinwa shared that for her closure is an opportunity for people who hurt us to justify their action and allow us fall into deeper hurt. She said everyone should move on after they are hurt and not wait for an explanation on the reason behind the action.
Closure…. Let’s talk about it, as I grow older I find that to me, closure is a trap to promote toxic behavior. It’s ended, it hurts, why do I need you to explain why you couldn’t treat me well? Not only relationships, even in family settings, meeting up with someone who abandoned you as a child to hear why they couldn’t be an adult inflicts more pain than healing.
In the past I’ve often times felt like not having closure limits you from moving on till I realized that it’s all in the mind. They left, it hurt, you survived and your healing is your right. I don’t know it all but I feel like closure is giving the people that hurt us an opportunity to soften the blow, we let them justify their bad behavior at our own expense, we relieve them of their guilt entertaining it and hurt ourselves even deeper. like heyyyy you broke my heart and treated me like shit but I get coconut head, I no dey hear word. And those people that ask if we can still be your friends after a break up, Do you even know the definition of friendship? Toke Makinwa Shared.
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