One wife is explaining why NOT to wait until marriage to have sex for the first time after having a bad experience on her wedding night.
Laci, from the US, said that she was raised in a “purity culture” but explains why this ruined her sex life for years.
Taking to her TikTok account, the wife was replying to another man’s post which said: “I just want to say that waiting until marriage to have sex for the first time is a really bad idea.”
Posting under the domain @laci_bean, Laci said: “I could not agree with him more. Let’s get a little vulnerable.”
“I grew up in the 90s where purity culture was like ALL the rage. There was even a point where I was like ‘I’m not even gonna kiss until marriage.’ Well, my husband and I did ‘technically’ wait until marriage” she added.
Laci explained that she did have some sexual experience with her boyfriend but the pair did not have sex before their wedding night.
“We weren’t like 100% pure but you know what I mean. When I tell you that my wedding night was f*****g sucked, it is an understatement” said Lacy.
Adding: “On my honeymoon, I called my sister, who is a nurse, literally bawling on the phone, saying ‘I think my vagina is broken’.”
Another thing the woman grew up believing is that she should put her own sexual needs and desires aside, and just focus on pleasing her man.
“And because purity culture thought me, that it was my job to please my husband, and it was all about HIM, or he would go watch porn and cheat on me, literally it took me a few years to be like ‘hey, what about me in this little tango?’” said Laci.
Adding: “I’m 32 and I’m still unlearning s*** guys. I f*****g hate purity culture.”
The wife’s post has over 887k times and TikTok users have been quick to comment.
“If you want to wait, thats’ fine. But it shouldn’t be because an institution pushed it on you” commented one person.
Another added: “My mom told me to go live with someone for a year before thinking about getting married. Best advice ever.”
“Nana told me to test drive the car before you buy it” commented a third.
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