If you’re a single guy in Naija, it can often seem like other guys have all the luck. The world seems to be full of couples, and looking at the guy who’s dating someone you wish you were dating, often you’ll wonder – “What does he have that I don’t?”
Some guys will say, “Women always go for jerks, and nice guys finish last,” as a means of dismissing men that women find attractive. And while it may be true that some women are into the stereotypical mysterious bad boy who’s emotionally unavailable and treats them poorly, most Nigeria women would rather date someone with positive qualities to bring to the relationship. So if you’re a man searching and interested in dating women and being the best possible partner to them, knowing which qualities women find most attractive can be a crucial step in moving from single to being in a relationship.
9. Be Passionate & Adventurous: The word “adventurous” is one of the favorite qualities Nigerian women want in men. Women want an open-minded man rather than a being a straight-jacket man. Being adventurous is also about changing up the daily routine to keep the relationship interesting. Are there any films, shows, events on that she might be interested in? Could you do something with her that you’d never normally do?
8. Be Intelligent: Nobody wants to date a dummy or ‘ode’ and frankly, intelligence rates highly as a quality women desire in men. I’m not saying you have to operate on Einstein’s level, but you should probably be able to hold a conversation. However, a lot of women want a man not being too arrogant about his intelligence.
7. Be Honest & Dependable: Honesty is a widely cherished quality among women generally, not just Nigerian women. I’m pretty sure there’s no human out there who will deny the importance of this virtue, and with good reason. Honesty and dependability aren’t just about being faithful, though it’s a wider category than that. Being crystal clear about things and clearing up your expectations in the beginning, so you’re not leaving her hanging or promising something you can never give. Being honest also means being clear in your communication throughout the entire relationship. So, if issues arise, deal with them up front.
6. Have Shared Values:Â It’s crucially important in any relationship that you share core values and principles, so it’s no surprise that shared values was a key attribute that many women mentioned. This doesn’t mean being the exact same person or having the same opinion on everything; rather, it’s about having the same basic idea of wrong and right, even if you quibble about the surface-level details.
5. Be Thoughtful & Generous:Â Thoughtfulness is a key quality in all relationships, but especially so in romantic partnerships. Thoughtfulness involves small gestures that show you respect and listen to your partner, and this is a way to remind her that you care about her without needing to go over-the-top with flowers and chocolates every day.
4. Be Empathetic:Â Empathy pops up again and again as a quality women are desperately seeking in men. That means being sincere in your concern for other people and thinking of others and going out of your way to make sure they’re happy and at ease.
3. Be Confident About Your Appearance:Â Good looks are something you’re either born with or you’re not, but an attention to detail is a desirable quality for most women. And this mostly manifested in the form of guys who smell good and take care of their appearance and surroundings.
2. Be A Good Listener: The ability to listen comes up so often as a prized trait for Nigerian women that it’s amazing more men aren’t tapping into this area. The obvious thing that is attractive is listening. As in, guys who listen to what you say and ask open-ended questions to show they are actually engaged, interested and want to know more. It’s incredible attractive for a woman if a guy is comfortable listening to someone else speak without interrupting.
1. Be Humorous:Â This one is a no-brainer and will come as a surprise to pretty much no-one: women like funny men. Wittiness is a universally-admired trait and women consistently report a good sense of humour as being one of their biggest turn ons.
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