That Sharp Naija Guy: Do Ladies Really Prefer “Jerks” Over “Good Guys”?


Think about it, do ladies truly prefer jerks — men who treat them rudely, who act like they could use them like an orange and dump them when they are through? Do they really love the casanova’s that manipulate their feelings at will?
But for the numerous stories and experiences, it will be rational for us to quickly conclude that ladies will naturally pick a nice guy over a jerk anytime, any day. Yet, we all know some ladies who can’t seem to get intrigued about anyone but an annoying brat. So, it’s okay to say we can officially conclude that some women prefer bad guys over good guys. The bigger question now is Why?
Think back to your teenage days. Now halt. Remember the guy who got all the girls with little or no effort. Yeah, him. I’ll bet he was a rascal. On a deep scrutiny of personality inventories, you will be shocked to discover that rascals aren’t psychotic — they’re just tend to be obnoxious and ill-natured.
Teenage life in almost every Nigerian secondary school rewards rascality. A huge amount of research and your own personal experience backs this up: Girls love the most authoritative guy around. In every Nigerian secondary school, the jerk always happen to be the most authoritative guy around.
It is needless to say that in every Nigerian secondary school, authority  comes from having the quickest wit or the most vigorous prowess. All forms of amusement for a Nigerian teenage guy is pain redefined. The funniest guy in secondary school is always hilarious at the expense of others. While the able bodied guys are not always known for throwing their weight around in the kindest possible way.
So why do ladies develop deep affection for these jerks?
The Rich Jerks
Study after study has proved that the reason ladies love authority is associated with a guy’s ability to provide and protect. Just as the toughest player would have made a great protector in the days of old—where all human mating behaviorism emanates from— the theory that women are drawn to whoever gets them and their kids all they need to survive. In today’s terms, that means money.
Fortunately or unfortunately, jerks usually find a way to end up being rich. They are not better employees, but they are never reluctant about putting their personal interest first.
Getting Laid
There must be a hidden school of thought somewhere aimed at teaching guys to be jerks—to optionally fake long-term interest, imitate indifference, and/or pretend to have more money (or status, cars, houses) than they really do.
There must be more to this than meet the eye because; study after study have proven that, some women admit that when they have casual sex, they maintain high standards for a guy’s high resources. An arrogant attitude may in itself tell a woman a guy has the goods, and lying can cover the rest.
Your Goal
We can rationally conclude now,  that jerks can successfully get casual sex with great ease. But they find it difficult to maintain a long-term relationship or marriage. They find it difficult to sustain a lady’s love for a long period of time. As a matter of fact, their lives and loves are a whole lot crappier than that of a “good guy”.
On numerous occasions, these rascals have admitted to the fact that they are less relationship-oriented, friendly, forgiving, trusting, helpful, warm, caring, cooperative, and sympathetic than the good guys. Jerks are less well-liked, they have more stress, and they have less happy lives. Basically, they have a little more money, and that’s it.
But as the old saying goes, money isn’t everything. Nice guys are good breadwinners, and the economics of life have made it clear that once you have enough money for the basics, massive wealth won’t actually increase your happiness.
Jerks are not overtly interested in relating. But nice guys tend to show a woman that they genuinely like and care about her. They take the brave risks of saying that they’re in love, and backing it up with numerous acts of love.
So, nice guys, please keep being nice. If at all you’re going to change something about your approach to life, change your belief that somehow, being a rascal will give you a better life or love, or guaranteed success with women. Cos It won’t. If you can find and be someone kind and respectful, your relationship will work well, and if you can’t it won’t. Getting together with a woman who needs you to be a jerk so she’ll be into you is a guarantee of misery.
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