Affection and love in the family is quite collective and must have elements to promote the harmony and growth of the family. It is the deep affection that makes parents inclined to the sacrifices of growing up kids, perform household activities and meet the financial requirements. If the affection factor is absent no one would have lived dedicatedly for the family. The affection obligates parents to take pain of looking after the kids and similarly, kids to love and obey the parents. Constantly nurturing the affection in the family is essential to keep the bond of love between the members of the family strong. It is the unmatched affection that creates the belongingness in the family life.
The affection expressed within the family is not benevolence but a commitment. Verbal expressions of affection, quality time spend with the family, gifts, mutual services, affectionate touch etc. are the most advised modes of nurturing the affection in the family between the family members.
Expression of Affection
Lavish expression of affection is the best way of fostering it. Verbal expression, physical expression etc., helps the affection to be conveyed to others and also to encourage other members of the family to follow the same. Verbal expression of affection means telling others how you feel about them and how much you love them. Anything said to make them feel loved, or validated can be called the verbal expression of affection.
Appreciating, concealing and complimenting helps others understand the depth of concern you feel for them. Apart from the verbal expression of love, there are certain physical expressions too, to foster the affection between the family members. Hugging them, kissing them etc., are common physical expressions of love and affection.
Spending Time Together
Spending quality time together is an obvious method of nurturing the affection among the members of the family. Such occasions are opportunity for every member to know each other, listen to each other and share with them and care for them.
Involving in any family activity with an objective of nurturing the relationship and developing the affection may be helpful to bind the people together in love. Eating together, outdoor games and walks, storytelling, gardening etc., are examples of family activity. Quality time means spending the time effectively so that it will help others feel more affectionate and attached.
Helping each one in family unconditionally is a way of increasing the affection between the members of the family. Helping the kids in study or helping wife in kitchen can arouse a feeling of love. If you want your family to be remained most attached always, then do not miss any opportunity to help them. Even trivial services like helping a child to fasten the lace of the shoes may foster the attachment element.Many people commit the mistake of helping the family members with certain conditions like ‘if you do that to me, then I will help you with this’. This is the wrong way of dealing and behaving with the members of the family. Let the help be unconditional, if you really wish to gain the love and respect of them.
Experts say that an affectionate touch nurtures love and attachment among the family members. Physical touch is always positive and it helps transferring the emotion and feelings between the family members. Physical touch, here, doesn’t refer to a sexual overtone. When it comes to the aspect of touch between the spouses, sexual touch is essential, but between parents and kids or between siblings the physical touch means a hug, kiss, or just a patting.
Actions like hug, kiss, patting, shake hand etc., directly convey how you feel for them and care them. They are well appreciated ways of expressing affection, especially in the family. Kids get great encouragement and confidence from a proper physical touch of affection. It also conveys a nearness of the dear ones and availability of them in need.Photo Credit: Getty