That Sharp Naija Guy: 5 Mistakes To Avoid On Your First Date With A Nigerian Girl 

Tunde, clap for yourself. You asked Anthonia, that Igbo girl you’ve been crushing on for a date and she said yes! Well done my original Naija sharp-shooter. Now let’s about talk about how to ensure you impress and turn Anthonia from friend to ‘babe’.The truth is that first dates are minefield. And while we all know the basics – be on time, don’t mention Salewa, the ex; there are some less obvious first date deal breakers for Naija girls.1. Spliting the Bill: Tunde, that girl Chimamanda will want all the girls to believe that they are equal to guys, and though she might be right with some of her feminist views, believe me feminism does not apply to Nigerian girls when it comes to paying on the first date. Ensure you pay for the date or you won’t see Anthonia again.2. Don’t Invite Her For A Family Dinner: Turns out, a coffee or tea date is absolutely fine. High fives all around. Majority of Naija single girls prefer more casual dates; inviting your date out for a coffee is the much safer option than a fancy dinner. And whatever you do, never suggest meeting for the first time at your family dinner, even if you think you can trust grandpa not to say anything controversial about her tribe or people.3. You Can Be Late, But Don’t Be Smelly or Unkempt: This date thing is a big issue. Do you shower or to run 10 minutes late? It’d be the latter! While I hope you wouldn’t forget to shower beforehand, even if you’re running late, make sure that clean feeling extends well beyond your house. Rather than working up a sweat rushing to your meeting spot, take a few minutes longer. Your date is more likely to forgive your lateness than your bad body odour, bad breath or bushy hair.4. Leave Selfie Sticks At Home: Unless your first date is with Toke, Tunde abeg leave selfie sticks at home. If it’s not appropriate to add your date on Facebook right away, why document the evening with a photo of the two of you together? In fact, maybe just forget you’ve got a phone with you all together.5. Listen To your Date, More Importantly Talk: Contrary to the popular belief that being a good listener is important, most Naija would rather their date spoke too much on the first meeting than listening intently like a SARS interrogator giving you the silent treatment. Before you think that gets you entirely off the hook, however, I’d imagine the ‘good listener’ trait becomes more important as a relationship progresses, while on a first date talking too much definitely trumps one awkward silence after another.Photo Credit: Getty

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