Most ladies have adopted the mantra “Nigerian guys are not romantic” as their National anthem. They have jumped to a permanent conclusion that we can never be as romantic as the guys they watch in their favorite Opera. Well, to be sincere, we’ve not been the most romantic guys on earth so far. The main cause of our unromantic state-of-being is the fact that “We don’t know how to speak the language of love”. Don’t be sacred, it’s not a normal language like French and English. It does not require excessive deep thought and late-night classes, and I can assure you, It is not too complex for an average Naija guy to understand.
Simply put, the language of love is the most effective way of telling your partner that you love her. It is the “G-Spot” of your partner’s heart, her deepest delight, her number one turn-on, in summary, a love language is what you can repeatedly do for anybody that will continuously make the person very very happy.
Most guys reflect love in the wrong way. We speak our own love language to our partner expecting them to cherish it forever. I for example do not like spending quality time with a woman. I am not overtly excited when you give me gifts. I am definitely not a touchy feely guy. Words of affirmation do not really send me to the moon. But an act of service will establish any lady as the apple of my eyes. Reflecting my love language to my partner might not make her exceedingly happy because It might not be her own love language.
So, to successfully speak of my undying love to my dream girl, I have to understand her own language. Identifying her love language should not be a herculean task. You can identify it by applying each language on your relationship. Observe her reaction to each language. Identify the language that earned you a cloud-nine experience in the inner room/ made her very happy (in the case of a no-sex relationship).
These Universal Love languages are :
·Quality Time: I am 100% sure you have heard ladies say “I want you to always be there for me” well my brother, they meant it literally. After doing everything she can to treat you like a king, the only thing some ladies want in return is “Your Time”. They want to always see you, talk to you, play with you, gossip about others with you, and a whole lot more. If your girl speaks the Time language, you need to always remember that the most important thing she want is your Quality time.
·Words of Affirmation: She will do your laundry, restock your kitchen, tidy up the house, and once in a while, give you a special treat. Sometimes, the only thing she want to hear in return are words like: Thank you my love, I’d be lost without you, You are the best choice I ever made etc. Aside applying this golden language to your relationship, You can apply it to your relationship with friends and family too. Words of affirmation stand as a foundational source of motivation for every human being. So my dear brother please use it well.
·Gift giving: As it stands now, this is the lingua franca of a large percentage of Nigerian ladies. We have heard, applied, and benefited largely from this language. After investing her time, money, attention and strength towards the success of your relationship, the best way of appreciating your partner might be as simple as embarking on a short trip to the gift shop. Though those that speak the gift language are not particularly psyched by the cost of the gift, buying her most cherished commodity will definitely make her hug you in deep joy.
·Act of Service: Preparing dinner for her after a tasking day at the office, bringing her breakfast in bed, washing her laundry on Saturday, plaiting her hair: acts like these and many more will make your partner cherish you forever if she speaks this language. An act of service will be most appreciated by your partner when she is going through a hard time like: pregnancy, sickness, loss of a loved one and so on.
·Physical Touch: Most guys misinterpret this for sex. Physical touch include gestures like: Holding hands, cuddles, massage and so on. To the detriment of their partner, most guys see moves like this as foreplay. It is important to observe what your partner really wants when she initiate a physical touch as some ladies really want sex.
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