In an ideal world, being forced indoors with our partners would lead to us feeling more connected to them, developing shared hobbies, and having more time to get creative in the bedroom.
A recent study has found, however, that 41% of couples have been having less sex than usual since lockdown hit, and a quarter feel like they spend too much time together.
The Lockdown Love report by Mentimeter asked 1,651 people about their relationships since coronavirus, and the results make for somewhat sad reading.
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40% of respondents felt like they didn’t have enough space and 36% felt that them and their partners weren’t making the effort for each other anymore.
In fact, 16% of relationships might be ending after lockdown, with 10% saying that it’s only a matter of time.
It’s not all bad. Half of those who responded said they spent more quality time with their partner. That’s a silver lining, right? Right?! There are also those lucky 14% who say they’re having more sex – and the quality of the sex people are having has been largely unaffected.
Although it seems a gloomy outlook for the future of our relationships, many of these problems are easily fixed with a little understanding and honesty.
On top of that, physical space will help bring that spark back as we ease out of lockdown, and we’ll hopefully be able to add more romance due to the reopening of restaurants and bars.
It could also be a flashpoint where we remember what’s important and push ourselves to make the effort with our loved ones. Therapist Vienna Pharaon, who worked on the study said: ‘We must remember that this lockdown created immense amounts of stress and trauma for so many people.
‘As we begin to look at the lessons or takeaways from this time, it’s important that we are gentle with ourselves and each other. I’d encourage people to think about their own personal takeaways from this time. What did you learn about yourself? What did you learn about your partner?
‘Consider questions like: Who did you miss? What have you remembered to appreciate? What or who were you okay not having in your life? Answering these questions might be emotional and confronting. They might also bring forward clarity and direction. Sit with that. Ultimately you’ll want to get intentional with how you co-create your lives together.’Photo Credit: Getty