Domestic Violence: The Church & The Hypocrisy Of Divorce In Nigeria

Domestic violence is a violent or aggressive behaviour in the home setting involving the violent abuse of a spouse or a partner.

When most people talk about domestic violence they only talk about physical abuses and other offenses that may cause injury, however, the 21st-century realities have shown that domestic violence is far beyond just physical violence. This wrong act manifests in many forms such as physical, sexual, emotional, and mental. In Nigeria, 1 in 3 women is said to suffer from one form of domestic violence during their lifetime. Popular forms of this violence include rape, assault, murder, battery, and blackmail. A lot of people wonder why people who suffer abuse, especially domestic violence can’t just walk away; it is quite difficult to walk away from your marriage when the preaching of ‘marriage is for better, for worse’ has been ingrained into your brain.
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Research shows that Nigeria is the second most religious country in the world, so it is easy to understand the huge influence the church, and its preaching has on its members. Many religious persons believe that divorcees will not make heaven, divorcees are mostly treated with contempt and are subject to some disabilities. They are sometimes not allowed to hold certain offices in society and in religious circles. This perspective is taken without finding out the circumstances surrounding the divorce or hearing from the victim. It is no news that the church ranging from Pentecostal to catholic, to apostolic, etc, stands against divorce. Most Roman Catholics will try to resolve problems in their marriage to avoid divorce as it is forbidden by their Church. If the marriage has irretrievably broken down, they can get a civil divorce but they will be unable ever to remarry in the eyes of the Roman Catholic Church. In some churches, if you are even given the liberty to divorce, you can never remarry irrespective of the cause of your divorce or your desire and yearning for a companion. In other churches, if you divorce and you want to remarry, it must be to a widow or widower.
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The recent death of gospel singer, Osinachi Nwachukwu has shown that the rules that govern the church have somehow become the chains that hold its members in bondage. It was revealed by a close acquaintance that the Ekwueme singer has been a victim of domestic abuse for years at the hands of her husband. It was also stated that the late singer disclosed that she was scared of what people will say, and also having a broken home. Her death will forever be a sad one, and it is equally sad the turnout of events on the direction, religion has taken. As hypocritical as social media and the society we live in today is, the same people that make up this hypocritical sect, still exist in the church. Should the laws that govern the church be reviewed? maybe yes, and maybe no, but when those laws begin to lead to the death of its members, something definitely needs to be done.  domestic violenceTrending video of the day;

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