Dear Aunty Aurora, I have always been close to my sister since we lost our mother when I was a teenager. My sister has always been the person I look up to and the best thing I know to a mum. My sister has recently discovered that her husband has got another family in Lagos. It looks like he has paid the bride price for both women. He wants to call a family meeting with all the elders but my advice to her is that she must just leave the lying b****r. Am I too harsh?Thanks Bisola, Shomolu.Dear Bisola, It appears your sister is a victim of ambush polygamy. She will be hurting greatly at the moment. Please support her, as her judgment may also be clouded by feelings. It is always offensive when a partner makes serious lifetime decisions on another partner’s behalf without their consent. A decision that may involve children, lifetime financial and emotional investments. A day when this partner is no longer alive, what a mess he would have left behind for other people to have to deal with. This makes him a selfish and inconsiderate person. Would you then want to continue investing in that kind of a person or future? Her husband has been very dishonest, however, it’s her decision to stay or leave. Let her call the family meeting. Even if she will end up leaving, this is necessary for closure.Photo Credit: Getty
