Dear Aunty Aurora,I am a single mum to three lovely kids but I feel like I have lost myself. I had my first son when I was 21. I married his father and we had twin daughters two years later. I’m 44 and my husband left 10 years ago to set up family with another woman. He wanted to have two wives but I was not prepared and cope with such. He hasn’t seen the children since, we parted ways. I raised my kids alone, as I have a good job. They are all doing well and I am really proud of them but I have spent my life focusing on them.Now I am worried I shall be left on the shelf, as my mum says. I do not want to be alone for the rest of my life. I am not one for parties and I have been single for so long that I think I would not even know if a guy was flirting with me. Jumoke, Lekki, Lagos.
Dear Jumoke,Well done for doing such a fine job bringing up your children but I understand how scary it can feel to go back out into the world of dating. The best way to develop an adult social life is to build on your interests. Look for associations, activities and voluntary work that attract you – where you are then likely to make friends. The strongest relationships often grow out of friendships like this.Photo Credit: Getty