Aunty Aurora: My Church Choir Lover Is Brilliant In Bed, But We’ll Never Be A Duet Because He Won’t Leave His Prayer-Warrior Wife

Dear Aunty Aurora,

I am having the most passionate affair with a married man. I can’t get enough of him and he is on my mind all the time but he will not leave his wife for me. I met my husband when we were both still in university. I am 38 and he is 43. We have two wonderful kids aged 11 and eight. I love my husband but I think I have fallen out of love with him. Sex is not brilliant either – always the same, in bed with the lights out.Last year I joined the choir at our new church just to try something new and meet new people. My husband came along to the church for a couple of weeks but decided it wasn’t for him. That’s how I met my lover. He is younger than me by six years but fun to be around. We always chatted and soon started flirting with one another. Our choir went away for a weekend retreat. I was so excited about the whole thing. It was the first time I’d been away on my own without my husband or kids. We had a brilliant time singing and in the evenings we had a meal then time to ourselves. He kissed me, it was electric and he invited me to his room. The moment he touched me we both knew what we wanted.We had amazing sex and he said some lovely things to me. That all happened a year ago and ever since we meet up whenever we can sneak time away. I know an affair isn’t fair on our partners but I cannot stop my feelings. I can’t tell my husband I don’t love him as it would hurt him and I don’t want our kids going through a marriage break-up. My parents split up when I was nine and I remember what a terrible experience it was. My husband was a tower of strength when we met. I feel I owe it to him to stay faithful. I know my lover will never be mine but he means the world to me. I am not the first woman he’s cheated with. Angela, Akwa.Dear Angela,You are one another’s escapism, and that is a sure-fire recipe for thrilling moments together. Almost certainly this affair is going to run out of steam. The grown-up thing to do is to end it and walk away. You need to stop cheating and get over it fast. And you need to find ways to add fun to your sex life with your husband.Photo Credit: Getty

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