Aunty Aurora: My Boyfriend Is Threatening To Ruin Me But I Still Love Him

Dear Aunty Aurora,
My name is Ara and I’m currently with my boyfriend of barely 8 months. He’s like the best boyfriend ever. He does everything perfectly but the only issue is that he’s the very jealous type. He doesn’t like the fact that other people see me as attractive even though he knows I have eyes for only him. He has gotten to the point of posting my nude pictures just because my ex boyfriend was still sending me messages. He cried and apologised but still went ahead and posted my nude pictures for a second time threatening to ruin my life. I really love him but each time he misbehaves and begs that he’s a changed person he would still do something to make me believe otherwise. He always finds a way to log in on my social media accounts just to see who sends me messages. He’s really the kind of man I’ll love to marry but I don’t know how to handle the matter because I feel trapped in the relationship.
From Lagos.

Dear Ara,
I think you are so caught up in the moment that you are not looking at the long term effect of having your nudes on the internet and how it may affect you in the future. I don’t see how someone who cares about you would do something so damaging to your personality not once but twice and you are not on your way out of the relationship already. Jealous people are some of the most dangerous to be with because you can’t tell what their jealous might push them to do. Threatening to ruin your life just because he feels insecure is just the beginning of many more and when he makes good on those threats, I hope it won’t be too late for you then. My advice is that you quit that relationship as soon as you can. I don’t see this boy friend of yours changing and if he has already betrayed your trust like that twice, trust me he will again and even do much worse. 
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