That Sharp Naija Guy: 10 Tips On How To Earn Your Babe’s Trust

Nothing is more important in a relationship than trust, earning it is one of the most difficult especially when its a new relationship or one that has undergone quite a number of fights, quarrels and sometimes break-ups.

Trust is top draw personality and every woman wants to go into a relationship be it for the short term or long term with an assurance that this is their man and he isn’t just another Iyanya or Iceberg slim with all of the muscles, who can sweet-talk their way into a ladies heart chew it up and spit it back in their face.

Yeah! having the perfectly chiselled body, biceps, dope dress sense, being funny all of this helps but it would all count for nothing if she doesn’t trust and understand you, that’s why this week I would be giving y’all my SNG bros the top 10 tips on how to easily earn any lady’s trust that would have her eating out of your palm;

1. Let Her Know Your Past: Once you’ve decided from the bottom of your heart that you really want this lady and you’re ready to win her heart, the very first thing you need to do is to let her know you. Tell her about your darkest secrets, the past relationships that have had the most significant effect on you help her understand you. Hey! I didn’t say you should start bragging about how many ladies you’ve slept with, No! make yourself vulnerable but still do not make yourself look weak. Plus don’t divulge all of the sweetest gist and secrets on your first date but give her a taste of some of it, wet her interest make her want to know you more.
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2. Say What You Mean And Don’t Beat Around The Bush: Let your word be your bond, stop lying Oga, just tell the truth. Well maybe not about your finances but still don’t lie you can decline to answer.
3. Don’t Say Bad Things About Your Friends: I have observed that a lot of Nigerian guys or men tend to say bad things about their friends to the partners or a lady they are trying to win her heart. I learnt this the hard way, there was a time whenever I met a new lady I go on about how silly my friends are or dirty or promiscuous I never knew I was digging my own grave at every instance I tell the ladies I am with those friends they start to suspect what are you doing, who are you talking to, you have gone see girls. Keeping it short don’t say bad things about your friends, I’m not saying you should paint them to be angels too either, rather don’t just talk about them or tell the truth.
4. Don’t Get Defensive: No matter the type of questions she fires at you or asks, your go-to should be staying cool and calm put on a smile and answer as honest as possible. Remember once you get defensive it would lead to more questions, so don’t lie you can leave out some information but don’t lie.
5. Stay Loyal And Honest With Your Old Friends: Yes this is another way to earn trust. Once a lady sees you’re a loyal friend who would tell his friend the truth no matter what and stand up for him. A lady’s instinct would kick in, if she notices this guy is loyal and honest to his old friends which he’s known since like forever then most definitely he would be to me. A good example would be, say you’re with her and a friend calls you instead of telling where you are you would rather lie, that doesn’t spell good omen about you. Because that simply means you can ditch your good pal for a lady you just met.
6. You are good with secrets:

   If you can restrain yourself and keep secrets of other people from her when you necessarily have to, she might not like it, but she will get used to it eventually and in fact, come to respect you for it because you have shown her that her own secrets are just as safe with you.

7. You Let Her Know The Passcode Of Your Phone:

   This is easy. A phone without passwords or one whose password is well known to your lady is one of the easiest, fastest ways to earn her trust. It suggests that you have nothing to hide from her.

8. Same Type Of Person To Everyone: I know this is quite a difficult one to do especially in the Naija context, but still been able to maintain a particular accent, posture, behaviour, etc no matter who it is or where you are, it says a lot about you, who you’re I mean your personality. Maintaining a particular level of composure says if you’re a fraud or not.
9. Be Honest About Your Life Plans And Goals: Show her you have a purpose, a drive and be honest about where you see her in your plans nothing wets a girl’s panties more than a man that seems to have a good head on his shoulders who can hold his own.
10. Trust Her Back In Return; see if you’re doing all of this and you don’t trust too in return or she’s not showing all of this too then it’s not worth it just walk away.

N.B: Today’s tips are for you to use if you want to get involved in a romantic relationship if you’re still on street and haven’t the woman for your heart please don’t use this for your evil handiwork ooo biko! Photo Credit: Getty